{"id":6021,"date":"2018-10-12T13:35:55","date_gmt":"2018-10-12T20:35:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/?p=6021"},"modified":"2024-09-17T09:29:18","modified_gmt":"2024-09-17T16:29:18","slug":"office-gossip-toxic-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/office-gossip-toxic-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"Office Gossip \u2013 Putting a Stop to Toxic Talk"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Buzz, buzz, buzz. As you walk down the hallway, you hear what sounds like a swarm of bees. As you get closer, you don\u2019t see any flying insects, just your co-workers talking together in hushed tones. As you approach, the buzzing diminishes until you pass by. Then, it starts all over again. Everyone is familiar with the prevalent phenomenon of office gossip. Most don&#8217;t appreciate it but don&#8217;t know what to do about it either.<\/p>\n<p>Should you be paranoid about what is being said? Is it being said about you? That will probably be your first impression, but it may not be an accurate one. Office gossip can range from the innocuous to harmful.\u00a0 It can extend from speculation about a new person starting at the office to the state of the company. How do you know when you\u2019ve crossed over the line?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-6023 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"Two colleagues smiling and discussing work in a sunny office with sticky notes on window.\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1707\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-scaled.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-669605-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s start with the difference between chitchat and gossip. Gathering around the coffee machine to talk about your weekend camping trip with your kids is chitchat. If the conversation veers into negative, inflammatory or embarrassing information harmful to one or more persons, that\u2019s gossip.<\/p>\n<p>Consider these situations to check whether the talk is harmful or harmless:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Does the conversation take pleasure in someone\u2019s misfortune?<\/li>\n<li>Does it create negative emotional energy or foster conflict?<\/li>\n<li>Does it cause hurt or damage to anyone?<\/li>\n<li>Would you repeat this information directly to the topic of the gossip?<\/li>\n<li>Is this creating an unsubstantiated story or rumor, especially about a work situation?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you answered \u201cyes\u201d to any of these questions, you have entered into the world of workplace gossip.<\/p>\n<p>Some people revel in office gossip, enjoying stirring up the pot and watching what happens, usually from a distance. Playing one co-worker off against another can become a sport with the results ranging from a mass exodus of employees who detest the toxic culture to a general lack of trust and morale. People become tense, protective and their productivity decreases. One of the worst-case scenarios is when employees <a href=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/en\/library\/10355\/business\/human-resources\/course\/conflict-management\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">take sides<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-1066969-unsplash-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6035\" src=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/rawpixel-1066969-unsplash-1.jpg\" alt=\"office gossip\" width=\"4000\" height=\"2667\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>You may say to yourself that you don\u2019t indulge in or condone office gossip. But do you listen to it when it is happening? You want to be seen as a team player, so listening to stories and gossip may seem to be part of that role. Yet by listening you are actually supporting and promoting gossip. What are some ways you can actively <a href=\"https:\/\/pollackpeacebuilding.com\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-workplace-gossip\/#:~:text=Addressing%20Gossip%20Directly&amp;text=If%20you%20find%20yourself%20hearing,not%20here%20to%20defend%20themselves.\u201d\">stop the gossip cycle<\/a>?<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Offer a solution to the gossiper&#8217;s complaint<\/li>\n<li>Excuse yourself from the conversation<\/li>\n<li>Distract the gossiper with a change of topic<\/li>\n<li>Be honest and politely ask the gossiper to stop<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>When you approach an authority figure, keep the conversation objective, citing you and your co-workers\u2019 concerns about the gossiper\u2019s behavior. Give examples of how the gossip is causing lowered morale and may lead to losing valuable people. Leave out the emotions and finger-pointing. Ask your superior to talk with the person and explain why this behavior is unacceptable.<\/p>\n<p>Many companies have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.knowledgecity.com\/en\/library\/50285\/business\/human-resources\/course\/code-of-conduct-and-ethics-for-employees\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">policy <\/a>on gossiping, which is the first step a supervisor can use to deal with a problem gossiper. If no such policy exists, make sure regular and transparent communication is in place to diminish the need for employees to speculate about company changes.\u00a0 Take a proactive stance with the gossipers, citing how their behavior impacts the company on many levels, from trust to productivity to culture. State that if the behavior continues it will be noted on their evaluations and could even lead to further sanctions.<\/p>\n<p>Leading by example is the best line of defense for managers and supervisors. Besides breeding a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.roberthalf.com.au\/blog\/jobseekers\/dont-feed-rumour-mill-dangers-office-gossip\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">negative work culture<\/a> and damaging other\u2019s reputations, gossip can cause the most damage to the person who does the gossiping. Workplace gossip is toxic, it\u2019s unprofessional, and it can cost you a promotion, friends, and most of all, it can damage your career irreparably. So the next time you feel inclined to divulge some juicy information about a colleague, think again. The person who will suffer the most is you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Buzz, buzz, buzz. As you walk down the hallway, you hear what sounds like a swarm of bees. 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